When Does Understanding Another Person's Moral System Become Stockholm Syndrome?

  

[This article, by Dr Ray Prebble, follows directly on from “On Being a Garbled Relativist”, republished at Urtica Ferox on 18 March 2020. It is adapted from a chapter in Ray’s forthcoming book, A Guide for the Modern Thinker: Meditations on the Universe and the Plight of Humanity. To a large extent it is self-contained, but readers will get more from it by reading “On Being a Garbled Relativist” first.]

I know from experience that if you are unfamiliar with the discussion in this area, the concept of cultural relativism and the arguments against it can take a while to sink in. So let’s step back and take stock. Cultural relativism is based on the idea that, as a matter of fact, cultures differ in their moral views. That is its strength. Having said this, no moral conclusions can be drawn about how different cultures with different moral systems ought to treat each other. That is its weakness. It is a serious weakness. By arguing that moral views are merely the product of a culture, the relativist has removed any possibility of making any sort of moral judgements that apply across cultures.

This means the relativist is obliged, like a non-interventionist God, to sit back and let the party roll. It is akin to watching goats butt their heads together, or a lion stalk a gazelle at the waterhole. There are no moral judgements we can apply to these situations: they simply are. The fact that people, unlike lions, are able to reflect on their actions and therefore come up with what they themselves take to be moral “reasons” for acting one way or another, is irrelevant. They are simply doing what they do and that’s all there is to it. Of course no cultural relativist will agree with this: they will shout and fret and call me names. But they are committed to it by their own theory. Moral relativism effectively extinguishes morality as many people understand it. This is why the United Nations, especially when involved in violent clashes of cultures such as in Rwanda or Bosnia during the 1990s, appears impotent. It is paralysed by relativism.

I have been criticising relativism both for its incoherence and for its consequences, and instead I have been developing the argument that moral decisions, even when in conflict across the cultural divide, can be discussed and reason applied to them. But all of the arguments have involved examining the implications of holding a relativist theory as a response to moral diversity. Now I want to look at a problem with relativism that has to do with its central assumption of moral diversity. Diversity, difference, is where relativism gets its toehold, and we have been simply accepting diversity as a fact. Indeed, in looking at how people end up with moral systems I tended to assume that moral diversity is inevitable. But let’s look more closely at the claim that people and cultures differ widely in their moral views.

To do this I want you to picture a hypothetical scenario. You wake with a start in the middle of the night, alone in bed (either because you sleep alone or your partner is absent). You are convinced you heard a noise from inside your house. Heart pounding, you creep out of your bedroom into the lounge to investigate the thud that still echoes in your brain. Suddenly, silhouetted against the window, you see the figure of a large man with a bag of stolen goods in his hand. You turn, dash down the hall and into your bedroom, slam the door, which doesn’t lock. You think about the fact that your visiting sister is in the bedroom, down the other end of the house – past the lounge – but, recalling the gruesome home invasions on the news, you turn and squeeze out your bedroom window, fall into a rose bush, crash through a hedge, then trip over a fence railing and sprain your ankle as you tumble onto the street. There, guilty about saving yourself but glad to be alive, gasping for breath, bleeding from a dozen lacerations and grimacing at your rapidly swelling joint, you recall the full-sized Santa Claus you kept overnight in the lounge for the children’s Christmas party the next day.

Your actions were based on your beliefs, in particular your belief that there was a large, potentially violent burglar in your lounge. On the basis of that belief your actions were reasonable: there had been violent attacks by burglars in the neighbourhood, and, in the light of this knowledge, your hectic and violent escape, which caused you substantial injury, was the right thing to do. On the other hand, if you had not had this belief, it would have been utter madness to dive out your bedroom window into a rose bush: it would have been entirely the wrong thing to do.

On the face of it, the person who chuckles and flicks on the light switch to reveal the Santa Claus and the person who runs in total panic would not seem to share the same beliefs about appropriate ways of acting. Yet the only thing that distinguishes them is a very specific belief about the world: one believes there is a threatening intruder, the other believes there is a harmless manikin, and on the basis of those differing beliefs they act totally differently: one acts extremely violently, leading to injury; the other acts calmly and peacefully.

Now we know that these “two” individuals have the same beliefs about appropriate ways of acting because they are the same person in our scenario: they have the same moral system. We don’t know much about this moral system, of course, but we can be safe in assuming that these individuals don’t differ morally: they are merely reacting differently on the basis of different beliefs about their immediate environment.

Ethicists are immensely fond of stretching people’s moral imaginations by first getting them to accept a moral rule, such as that killing an innocent person is wrong, and then getting them to imagine a scenario (such as an out-of-control train) that involves a choice between sacrificing the life of an innocent person or letting 10, or 100, innocent people die. “What would you do?” the ethicist smugly asks Sarah, a baffled first-year student.

If the participant in this ethical thought experiment finally admits that she would kill the single innocent person, do we assume that her moral system has changed? Or would we conclude that the moral decision forced upon her was based on very specific beliefs about what is likely to happen as a result of her actions in this situation? She still believes that killing innocent people is wrong, but she is suddenly faced with what she now perceives to be degrees of wrongness: killing 100 innocent people is wronger than killing one innocent person. And let’s face it: choosing between degrees of wrongness aptly sums up a huge proportion of the moral decisions we have to make.

This is why it is unrealistic to define a moral system purely in terms of the content of a simple list of unqualified moral statements to which an individual does or does not agree, such as the Ten Commandments. One could insist that before the Ethics 101 lecture Sarah believed killing innocent people is wrong, and that after the lecture Sarah believes killing innocent people is right. But in fact all that we have shown is the complexity of moral decision-making. Sarah hasn’t changed from a nice girl into a psychopath. She was tricked into agreeing to an overly simplistic moral rule and made to see that life is sometimes not that simple. (To the criticism that there are few situations in which we have to decide whether to kill one or a hundred people, one could reply that military commanders regularly face just such decisions.)

Parents encounter the complexity of moral rules the hard way: after teaching their child not to lie, they blanch in horror as their three-year-old girl tells her grandmother, when asked, that her new hairstyle looks horrible. To be workable, all moral rules must be seen as general guidelines that need to be interpreted when applied to specific situations, which is why traditionally every society has had some form of moral authority to appeal to when circumstances create a situation where the right thing to do is unclear. This isn’t due to an absence of moral rules: it is due to the fact that in the real world there is both right and wrong in many actions, and judgements need to be made.

In a directly analogous way the law recognises exceptions to legal rules: killing another human being is illegal in most societies, but there are usually circumstances where it is not illegal, whether this be in time of war, in self-defence, because the person didn’t mean to, because your wife was unfaithful, and so on. In these circumstances a simple “Thou shalt not kill” has not been seen as adequate to cover the staggering variety of human experience and mitigating circumstances that are revealed in court cases.

But, we might ask, why is it that gaining more factual information about what happened in a particular situation helps us to make moral decisions? Is it possible that the real decision, in many cases, relates to non-moral rather than moral factors?

This doesn’t seem to be unreasonable. In court cases we want to know precisely what happened in order to pass a legal judgement. What were the circumstances, was there a motive, was the act premeditated, what was the sequence of events leading up to the action in question, what happened afterwards, was there remorse? This kind of factual information is crucial in a court case, and in sentencing, so it doesn’t seem unreasonable to assume it might also be crucial in reaching a decision about whether an action was morally wrong. You can’t just look at the category of action itself − for example, hurting another person − and pass moral judgement. You have to get inside the particular circumstances of the situation first. This seems undeniable.

Relativist anthropologists advanced a long way down this road. In the course of explaining the development of the term “cultural relativism”, Robert Redfield notes that it came to be believed by anthropologists that it is wrong to stop at the point of saying, “These people think it is right to …”, with the blank filled in by some practice deemed morally reprehensible in the speaker’s own culture. One has to get inside the situation, inside the heads of the individuals involved, and understand “why these things were done and thought right and good”. When this exercise was carried out, Redfield remarks:

the shock of the different began to disappear as it came to be understood that each traditional way of life was a somewhat coherent statement, in thought and action, of a good life. Seen in context, most customs then showed a reasonableness, a fitness with much of the life, that allowed the outsider more easily to understand and more reluctantly to condemn.[1]

If to understand is not to condemn, and to forgive, this may be because one is saying that in that particular situation, I would think and act in the same way because I understand and agree with the moral reasoning involved. Having taken on the non-moral knowledge and beliefs of this initially apparently very different individual from another culture, including the consequences of acting in certain ways, I find myself agreeing with them in their moral choices. It now seems a very short step, like a good cultural relativist, to respecting the moral systems of other cultures.

In effect, though, this does away with the original perceived moral difference rather than bolstering any reason for respecting moral difference. It appeared as if you had a radically different moral system, but in fact the moral differences could be accounted for by differences in non-moral beliefs and knowledge. This is what the sensitive anthropologist is experiencing when immersed in a different culture. The question then becomes: Is what happens to the anthropologist in a foreign culture equivalent to what happens in Ethics 101? Has there been a change in moral system, or a refinement of the original moral system based on new information about the world and the way things (including societies) work?

The implications of how this question is answered are huge. Because the steps in reasoning the cultural relativist takes are as follows:
1. I thought the actions of this individual from another culture were
 morally wrong.
2. However, once I came to understand the reasons for their actions I came to think they were morally right.
3. Therefore we ought not to morally condemn the actions of individuals from another culture.
But of course 3 does not follow from 1 and 2. The logical implications need to be worked through more strictly:
1. I thought the actions of this individual from another culture were morally wrong.
2. However, once I came to understand the reasons for their actions I came to think they were morally right.
3. Therefore, in order to pass moral judgements about the actions of an individual from another culture, we need to understand their reasons for acting the way they do.

It may not seem like it at first, but this is a big difference. If one lives with a tribe and comes to see why they abandon old and sick people to die, and even morally condone it, that does not give any support whatsoever to a blanket prohibition on morally judging other cultures. It does give support to the idea that before you judge you should try to understand. If the proponents of moral diversity go about erecting knowledge walls around cultures, which imply that no-one from outside the culture can ever truly understand their reasons for acting, then they have effectively cut off the possibility of any kind of moral discourse. A resort to a wholesale prohibition on moral intervention then becomes inevitable. This is why it is crucial to challenge others’ beliefs. To unthinkingly respect them is simply to put them in the too-hard basket. It is to shy away from engaging with people different from you concerning the most important aspects of life.

The requirement to gather information about a moral situation falls under what has been called an “epistemic duty”, which is nicely summed up by the philosopher Mark Rowlands:  “[An epistemic duty] is the duty to subject one’s beliefs to the appropriate amount of critical scrutiny: to examine whether they are warranted by the available evidence and to at least attempt to ascertain whether or not there exists any countervailing evidence.”  He continues, rather pessimistically, “Today we have scant regard for epistemic duty: so sparingly is it honoured that most people would not even regard it as a duty (and this, itself, is a failure of epistemic duty).”[2]

I’m not sure this is a problem of modern life: people have always been reluctant to subject their own beliefs to suitable scrutiny. Rowlands is not just saying that if you want to be taken seriously then you need to produce the evidence from Wikipedia: he is implying that you are morally culpable if you don’t find out relevant information. Ignorance is not an excuse. If you buy a dog and don’t realise it needs water, and it dies, then you are morally to blame (Rowlands would say you are evil). Finding out information is an essential part of making a moral decision, and a failure to find out information can mean you make a very bad moral decision.

In a nutshell, then: a true test of moral diversity is to fully understand another person’s reasons for acting as they do, including the beliefs they have about the world and in particular the situation in which they are acting, and then ask yourself, “If I were in that situation, with that information and those non-moral beliefs, would I act differently?” If the answer is no, then it is worth asking in what sense you are operating with a different moral system. In some ways this is similar to the “reasonable person” notion applied in legal cases. Given this situation, what could we expect a reasonable person to do? The answer to this question can determine whether someone is acquitted of murder. If a juror, after hearing all the weeks of evidence in a complex case, believes that in a similar situation they would have acted in the same way, then they are likely to morally absolve the defendant and consequently seek to legally absolve them as well.

“Surely this is absurd,” you splutter, and here I will flesh out what I take will be many people’s reaction:

This is madness. You seem to be confusing gaining knowledge of another culture with Stockholm syndrome, whereby close association with someone who has kidnapped you, say, will bring you around to their way of thinking. But, first off, everybody knows that this involves a change in moral thinking; and second, it is generally viewed as irrational, a psychological aberration.
           
            More generally, are you really saying that there is, after all, no moral diversity? That if, through circumstances, a person from one culture ends up in another culture with a different set of non-moral beliefs and knowledge, which result in different moral actions, then if that person adopts the moral actions of their new culture they leave their own moral system intact? It just looks as if a moral change has taken place? If so, doesn’t this make the whole concept of a moral system completely empty and absurd?

My reply would be, first, to stress that my aim is to suggest that moral diversity has been over-exaggerated rather than to argue that it is non-existent. It has been over-exaggerated because all of the emphasis is placed on the end results of the moral reasoning process in terms of words and actions. But just as we did when attempting to explain the extreme actions of the person fleeing the Santa Claus, we need to work back to the basis of these words and actions. And this introduces my second point.

Cultural relativism hinges on the idea that moral values simply arise as preferred ways of acting in a society, and as such there is nothing to choose between them. You think sex before marriage is right, I think it is wrong, and we can go no further. But if we admit, as in the case of the shadowy Santa, that moral choices are also based on other beliefs about the world, this raises the real possibility that these other beliefs are of a kind that can be debated fruitfully, such that one belief can be shown to be right and one wrong. If this is so, it follows that the moral beliefs that stem directly from non-moral beliefs can be shown to be either right or wrong.

In discussions about moral and cultural relativism the focus is almost always on the moral beliefs themselves, not on what underpins them, but this is precisely where the argument should be happening. If a startled neighbour, hauling on his dressing gown, asks you what you are doing standing bleeding and naked in the street, if you managed to collect your dignity and thoughts sufficiently in such a situation you might say, “Based on my belief that there was an intruder in my lounge who meant to do me harm, I decided that the best course of action involved rapid and extreme retreat, despite causing personal injury. I now realise that I was mistaken in my initial belief, and so I have to admit that my decision to act in that way was wrong. I ought not to have acted as I did.”

By emphasising moral diversity, cultural relativism erects a no-go area around one of the most crucial aspects of life by declaring there is no room for debate: moral beliefs and actions simply cannot be compared, judged or justified because they are based on culture, and culture is simply what it is, a given. This is what Sam Harris means when he argues that religious tolerance is one of the principal forces driving us toward the abyss. It is because tolerance (let alone respect) entails an end to all argument. If one ought to tolerate (or respect) the actions and beliefs of another, no matter what they are based on, then there is no longer any room for negotiation. End of story. Cultural relativism eliminates the possibility of any sort of dialogue between cultures.

Rejecting cultural relativism is not a popular move, and it usually inspires knee-jerk “You’re a Nazi” responses. But the enormous benefit of starting to look at things in this way is that it at least allows for the possibility of discussion and resolution of differences. If you decide that the difference between you and someone you are arguing with is entirely moral, then it would seem there is no possibility of any further discussion. However, pursuing a moral argument to its core, thrashing out differences in knowledge, beliefs and non-moral perspectives, has the potential to achieve much, much more. It is only by being sceptical about the degree of moral diversity promoted by relativists that the clash of cultures can ever be ameliorated.

Another way of putting this − and I apologise for hammering the point home but it is crucial and bears reiteration − is that apparently very different people may share common values. This should not come as a great surprise because of the universality of the human condition. Barring disease and other physiological and psychological abnormalities, we all feel pain and joy, want to be loved, and feel more protective of those close to us than we do of strangers. Don’t get me wrong: I am not saying one can base an entire non-relativist moral system on a few common human needs. What I am saying is that having common needs will tend people towards common values, even if beliefs about the best practical way to realise these values differs, and manifests itself in apparently divergent moral systems. This is why even though different groups tend to come up with different ways of doing things, which is the assumption we started with, if the problems people face and the needs they have are similar, then chances are moral diversity will often be more apparent than real.

“What about a Jew arguing with a Christian and a Muslim?, you say. “Are you going to drill down into their non-moral beliefs and convince them all they aren’t really different?” My reply: yes, many moral beliefs are based on religious beliefs, but religious beliefs can be argued about just like other non-moral beliefs, especially when they hinge on the interpretation of a text. The histories of these three religions are drenched in arguments about interpretation, textual and otherwise, but I will get to that in my next article.

One real-world example of the recognition of moral similarity in the face of apparent cultural diversity can be seen in the wording of the European Union’s Constitution. Part II of The Charter of Fundamental Rights of the Union begins (my emphasis):

The peoples of Europe, in creating an ever closer union among them, are resolved to share a peaceful future based on common values.
Conscious of its spiritual and moral heritage, the Union is founded on the indivisible, universal values of human dignity, freedom, equality and solidarity; it is based on the principles of democracy and the rule of law. It places the individual at the heart of its activities, by establishing the citizenship of the Union and by creating an area of freedom, security and justice.
The Union contributes to the preservation and to the development of these common values while respecting the diversity of the cultures and traditions of the peoples of Europe as well as the national identities of the Member States and the organisation of their public authorities at national, regional and local levels; it seeks to promote balanced and sustainable development and ensures free movement of persons, services, goods and capital, and the freedom of establishment.[3]

In other words, cultures may differ greatly − and the EU explicitly recognises this − but there may still be a shared system not only of “common values” but of “universal values”, which are intended to act as the glue to hold this hotch-potch of cultures together. The less-important differences in “cultures and traditions” that don’t impinge on these shared values are to be respected − but this is very different from respecting cultural behaviours purely on the basis that they arise in a different culture.

Of course, as is becoming increasingly clear, this noble-minded balancing act between universal values and diversity of cultures is difficult to sustain, and may well not survive Brexit followed closely by the Covid-19 pandemic. But one of the strongest criticisms of the EU is that it has ended up being run by an unelected bureaucracy, despite democracy being one of its two founding principles. It may well turn out that the idea of trying to form a supranational entity with a single culture was doomed from the start, and that it is crucially important for groups to have their own ways of doing things in order to feel a sense of belonging and identity. This doesn’t mean discussion about right and wrong goes out the window. It becomes even more important, and, I want to argue, is still possible. We can keep talking about what is right and wrong.




[1] R Redfield, Human Nature and the Study of Society: The Papers of Robert Redfield, ed. M.P. Redfield, Chicago University Press, Chicago, 1962, pp. 458−459.
[2] M. Rowlands, The Philosopher and the Wolf, Granta, London, 2008, p. 98.

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